‘Something that i have learned over the years is that toddlers are not patience by nature. When they want something , they don’t know whether you’re not ready or your not capable of providing at that time , the one thing they know is that you can do it right away. Toddler loves attention and it has to be immediately.
Well, growing up i remember thinking that i have to be given everything i ask for even when my parents could not provide at that time. So it wasn’t a shock for me especially now that i have kids of my own, when i became frustrated by the demands the tantrums and the noises that goes with it, ooh thanks to my patience, i believe we learn as the parents to be better everyday by adapting to different ways that makes our life easier.
Thanks to some awesome writers who writes about parenting tips, i was able to adapt some tricks that fits my schedule and lifestyle, so what i realized is that kids learn and so as a parent we need to tell them what to do otherwise they will do it their way, i found some fun ways to deal with my kid’s impatience and here i am to share them with you.
3 ways i teach my kids to be patience.
- Fullfilling what I promise I will do.
To be honest i have promised so many things to my kids that i never fulfilled, but i came to know kids are smart , they remember everything you say and they trust their parents, So what we say to them stick in their little heads, when we don’t fulfill our promises we destroy their trust. So i stopped and start to fulfill what i promise i will do for them, things like wait for five minutes i will give it to you, i remember my son telling me, “mom five minutes is done, come play with me” ooh my!😳 what a shame i felt so bad. Promises, like we will go outside after i take a shower, kids wait patiently for that moment and you come out not remembering if you said so. So its good to fulfill what we promise we will do for them or with them. This one build their own ability to wait and be patient.
- In store shopping with them.
When i use to take them to the store , the first thing they will ask is mommy we want toys, this was so frustrating for me because i will buy a small toy, and after they get a toy, they will demand to go home because they have what they want, how crazy was this, i would sometimes had to stop shopping and take them back home. How do I deal with this one, now i tell them; they will only get a toy if they stay calm while i finish shopping for everything, this has been a game changer , it feels so good because they trust mommy so they wait in a shopping cart as i go around the store, this way i am able to buy everything i need in a short time, no tantrums, no crying and its a win win for both of us.
- Baking with them.
Nothing taste good like a fresh baked banana bread, or something that smells nice like a cinnamon cake. I love everything about baking, thou its a therapy for me, my kids loves fresh baked banana bread so that makes me bake it more often.
The process takes time, but the results are always what we long for, so i take my kids through the process, i let them help me with adding ingredients, and whisking which is their favorite part, and lastly we put the cake in the oven and we wait. This process help them with waiting ability , because they know it takes time. I know my son always watch through the oven to see if its ready but through it all they learn to wait when they are required to.
These are some fun ways i also build trust with my toddlers and at the end of the day it makes my life easier.
Share with us some of the ways that you use with your toddlers to help them be patience below in the comments.