My friend reached out and she ask how i managed to study both SQL and DevOps, she is a mom too so she was curious to know how? I jokingly told her mothers are magical, we have unexplainable power that even we ourselves can not understand. I also told her that there is that feeling of a mother, if i was able to give birth to my kids, there is nothing in this world that i can not do, i just have to put my mind into it and decide to go for a challenge.
One thing that i know if your a mother in United state working from home is what you would wish for, you just need the flexibility to be able to increase your family finance, to be exposed to adults environment because we spend most of out time with kids, at the same be able to take care of your kids at home.
Here are practical ways that helped me study SQL and DevOps with 2 kids under 3 as a stay at home mom.
- Find your insparation.
As of me i was inspired by three things, Technology is the high paying job and i needed to make more money so i jumped at it without any doubts. Second , i wanted to work from home and these position has a lot of remote jobs that would give me the flexibility i wanted. Third, i wanted to inspire my kids to be whatever they want to be in future, to let them know that if mom can do it they can do more. So its good to find what inspire you to keep moving forward. They say find your why.
- Establish routine.
The little ones loves routine, and it works better for them. i admit its so hard to start a new routine for the first time, but its worth it, kids adapt to routine fast as long as you stay consistent and never be discouraged if they don’t adapt in your pace, if you understand your kids better you can come up with a good routine that fits you and them,so that you both can be in a same page. So let them get use to it slowly and they catch up fast, before you know it , they will start asking you why they didnt shower when its time to shower, or reminds you that it’s time for nature walk. If you have an active toddler make sure they get tired during the day, which means establish alot of activity so that they can spend their energy, you will thank me later when its bed time because they will be ready to sleep.
- Sacrifice.
I won’t lie to you, this should be number one point. Wether you’re working from home or you work from office, or your a stay at home mom. It doesn’t matter what you do, but all that i know, taking care of the kids is a 24/7 job and we get tired alot, at the end of the day you just need to get some rest, so speaking of studying on top of that can be stressful. But its worth it, I said to myself if i can sacrifice a year of studying and i live a financially free life forever, what am i loosing?
So i sacrificed my two hours of sleep everyday to make it possible for me to review when the kids go to sleep. I also deleted my social media account for all that period of time so that i can spend that social media scrolling time to study and make myself better. I tell you today, this is something that I would do again and again if i can stay finacially free forever.
- Determination.
So there is a mantra i had when i decided to start, ”it has to work” in life i have come to know if you have a plan A and B you will be relieved 😌 that if this one fails you will shift to plan B. Ooh no 
for me this was not an aption no matter how much i love plans , this one had no plan B, it has to work i said this everytime i study. This one for me was a fuel , it increased the fire inside me, that i have to make it happen because if it won’t work i have no any other plans. This helped me a lot even when things were so difficult i remembered that i had no plan B so it has to work , period.
If you see the solution to your future what would you do to make it work?
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