I wanted to make it looks like I never left, but where is the lie, I left and I am back, not the same way I left but this time more stronger than before because I have done something beautiful that has rebirth me. If you have been here for a while , you would have noticed that i went missing. Yes i have been changing diapers , breastfeeding, burping and rocking my baby to sleep. In case you skipped about me page now you know I am officially mom of three (3). Oh well I’m still processing how that came in too fast and getting myself together as well as i accept my new life.
It has been rough, at the same time a beautiful experience that goes by too fast, so I’m trying to catch up with these moments enjoying everything about it, though exhausted and tired most of the time, sleepless nights, crying and smiling at the same time. So i would conclude that it’s a 50/50 feelings and I don’t want to miss a thing.
Well, it gets better they say, but they didn’t tell me how rough it can be, thanks to my husband for making this season bearable, I know he doesn’t do night breastfeeding sessions but he offers water to keep me hydrated, he make sure I have tea by my side everytime and he does burping session so I am so lucky to have him.
To my best friend, thank you for calling me everyday I know you might be in Kansas but you call everyday to make sure I am really okay. To my mom friends texting me everytime asking how I am really doing, thank you for caring. To other women who offered to prepare soup for me , I am so grateful for your love and time you put in to make sure I am getting through the season I am in with grace.
It feels like I am sacrificing alot, by the way it is alot of sacrifice being a mom. Being able to take care of tiny little baby and two toddlers plus family it is alot of sacrifice. It gets lonely and sometimes I don’t recognize myself, but the all process has given me alot to learn about my capabilities and thats what I wanna share with you. How I reframe my sacrifices. Some one asked me how do you do it, and I said, ” I just reframe my sacrifice ” her is how 🤔
- Prayers. My faith is built on Jesus and I love when I pray because I feel renewed and strong.
- Reading and learning , getting to read from professionals. Learning from other people’s experiences. I’m a 3 times mom but everything feels new, so I take time and learn to approach this season in a new way.
- Ask for help, do not assume that they’re busy. Call someone if you need to talk, cry 😢 just have a talk because you will get a new look on your situation.
- Be positive about my thoughts. This helps me see things differently each time a negative thought comes in because they will always be those crying moments of feeling abandoned or feels like it’s the end of life.
- My desire to build my family. I grew up in a big family, I have always wanted to have a family of my own and so recognize that good things doesn’t come easy.
This and many more ways helps me see my sacrifices differently and so being able to approach motherhood with grace. Just to remind a mom reading this , the first few days will be rough but just remember it gets better 😊.